More Than a Mom
“Terrific graduation party, honey,” he said, whisking the cake back to the kitchen.
“Yeah, but I just feel so sad,” she sighed as she picked up the plates. “Like nobody needs me anymore.”
“Aren’t you glad to finally be free?”
“Sure, but I feel lost. What do I do now? It seems like my life is over.”
This scene comes way too soon for many parents. We’ve given our lives to raising our kids. We love having them around and we even like their friends. Then suddenly they’re gone. They leave an empty bedroom. An unoccupied bathroom. A silent phone. More than that, they leave a real hole in our lives. Do we still have a purpose?
If we’re truly honest, we’ll admit that our children are guests in our homes only for a season. They’re not our property – they belong to God. He has a destiny for each one. If we hold on too long, we could be blocking his eternal purpose. Even the mother of our Lord had to release her son.
So what now? Well, God has a plan for our lives too. It includes parenting, but if we make that our only purpose, we’re missing out on his greater plan. When the parenting season is over, it’s time to look for his fresh direction. We’re more than moms and dads to God.
This is a bittersweet time for many parents. Letting go is always hard. Consider these suggestions to help your transition:
- You are truly facing a loss. Allow yourself to grieve.
- Share your hopes and fears with family and friends who understand.
- Rest in God. Allow the Lord to guide you to your new purpose.
Down inside you know you aren’t really losing your child. Your relationship is just changing. The parenting experience prepares you for the next step. Go deeper, trust God, and stay open for your new assignment. He isn’t finished with you yet.